Learning how to deal with anger can be crucial to successful recovery. Unresolved or inappropriately-expressed anger can be a can trigger a relapse. On the other hand, learning how to deal with negative emotions in a positive way can support Lasting Recovery.
Here, we conclude addressing some of the most-common misconceptions about anger.
Myth #3 – You Must Be Aggressive to Get What You Want
Aggression is about domination, intimidation, and winning at any cost, even if it harms or injures another person. This damages the interpersonal relationships that can support a successful return to sobriety.
Assertiveness, however, is about healthily expressing your anger or dissatisfaction in a way that is still respectful of others. It avoids threatening, blaming, or personal attacks, leaving the way open for a positive and productive resolution.
Demonstrating the ability to work through issues, restores trust and strengthens relationships.
Myth #4 – Venting Anger Is Always Desirable
Once upon a time – and not so very long ago – the “popular” opinion was that it was okay to express your anger through an aggressive or violent action, such as screaming, hitting a pillow, or working out with a punching bag. After all, went the reasoning, it’s better than taking it out on a person, right?
However, explosively venting your anger with some aggressive action only makes you better at getting angry. It also gets you in the habit of acting in a potentially violent manner. In other words, when you practice aggression, you reinforce future aggression.
Look at it this way – if you became very angry during an argument, and you took out that anger by pounding your fists on the table, there are two things that might happen:
FIRST, the other person might be scared into thinking, “What if next time, it’s ME?” Obviously, that fear can jeopardize any positive or healthy solutions.
SECOND, you could get into the habit of hitting things when you’re angry. And one of these days, you could hit the wrong thing… or person.
Successful recovery involves more than just not drinking and drugging. It also means moving away from dangerous, self-destructive, or harmful behaviors. If you want to learn how to deal with your anger without jeopardizing your sobriety, Lasting Recovery outpatient rehab in San Diego can help.
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