“Bring it up, make amends, forgive yourself. It sounds simple, but don’t think for a second that it is easy. Getting free from the tyranny of past mistakes can be hard work, but definitely worth the effort. And the payoff is health, wholeness, and inner peace. In other words, you get your life back.”
~Steve Goodier author of Lessons of the Turtle: Living Right Side Up
This is part two of a series.
As any person who either works in or has been a client of a San Diego addiction recovery program would tell you, substance abuse is a lonely disease that doesn’t just affect its victim alone. The damage that an addict leaves in their wake negatively affects everyone around them – society as a whole, their friends, their coworkers, and most especially, their family.
In the last installment, we talked about what not to do.
Taking Care of Yourself First
As we discussed, you have probably been driving yourself crazy and making yourself sick trying to take care of your addicted loved one. Once you stop chasing and arguing and cleaning up and fixing, you will have enough time to begin working on yourself.
It may sound harsh, but you have to be in a healthy place – emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually – if you want to offer any assistance to your loved one. After all, you cannot be there for someone else if you are not there for yourself first.
- Stop neglecting yourself and sabotaging your own happiness – When you take a step back and look at your life since addiction became part of your reality, you might be shocked as to everything you have allowed yourself to lose.
- Not eating right, due to anxiety and stress
- Calling in to take off from work/neglecting important duties and projects
- Ignoring the needs of other family members to focus on the one suffering from the addiction
- Not getting enough rest
- Avoiding friends, because of awkward questions
- Giving up favorite pastimes and activities
- Postponing trips because you’re worried about what the addicted person might do
- Spending money earmarked for other obligations take care of the other person– paying fines, rent, utilities, car center, etc.
- Taking no time for yourself to relax
Reclaiming your peace of mind means refocusing on yourself – YOUR needs, YOUR obligations, and those things that are personally important to YOU – rather than spending all of your time and energy actively involved in the maelstrom swirling around the addicted person.
- Enroll in counseling and start going to support groups – It is imperative that you seek out the best family addiction treatment San Diego has to offer.
When you start going to a support groups for the family of those addicted to alcohol or drugs, you will learn that you are not alone. You will hear stories from others that, while differing in the particulars, will show that you have experiences that are common in theme. Hearing that, you will be able to gain strength and inspiration from others in the group.
You can then use what you learn from the group to help you in individual therapy that addresses the specific needs for your situation. A licensed addiction therapist can educate you about the disease of addiction and help you begin your own journey of recovery.
The point is this – if addiction has made your life unmanageable, you need to get help for yourself.
If you have questions about what the right San Diego drug addiction rehab program can do for you and your family, contact the staff at Lasting Recovery today.