“They must understand that despite how much a part of them loves their addiction and wants a relationship with it forever, their addiction will never be able to reciprocate healthy love in return.”
~ Lindsay Kramer, San Diego
Have you ever considered that people who misuse drugs and alcohol are in a relationship with their addiction? Think about it:
- Getting high—The initial thrill
- Regular use—Spending time together
But it goes even deeper than that—actual feelings of love can develop.
When life gets too hard, or stressful, or overwhelming, substance abusers turn to their addiction to make them feel better, just as they would to a trusted spouse or partner. They began to prioritize the addiction, because the addiction is ALWAYS there for them.
Addiction as an Unhealthy Relationship
But eventually, what was once fun and exciting and a way to feel good becomes shameful, limiting, and just a way to keep from feeling bad. Even worse, substance abuse negatively affects every other real relationship the person has – spouse, family, friends, coworkers.
The addiction starts to harm the person—injuries, health issues, loss of self-esteem, money problems, ostracization. And just like people trapped within any abusive relationship, the addict hangs in until one of three things happens:
- They hit a “rock bottom”— the point where they just can’t take it anymore – and they end the relationship.
- Someone else intervenes and convinces them to end the relationship.
- They DIE.
How Addiction is MORE Than a Bad Relationship
This is where a relationship with addiction differs from a relationship with a person. Where real relationships can often improve as people learn, grow, and work together, unchecked addiction ALWAYS gets worse.
Because here’s the thing—addiction is a medical condition, a diagnosable disease.
You can’t reason with, convince, beg, bribe, or barter with a disease.
The ONLY thing you can do if you want a better life is to separate from the active manifestation of that disease. And, since it’s virtually impossible to achieve that separation through willpower alone, you need specialized professional help if you want to safely and successfully recover.
If you are ready to “break up” with your addiction, Lasting Recovery outpatient rehab in San Diego is one of the most-trusted substance abuse recovery programs in Southern California.