One of the first things that every person in a San Diego drug rehab wants to do when they have any period of regained sobriety is start to repair some of the damage their addicted behaviors did to their relationships with their loved ones.
Here are some things to keep in mind when you are trying to repair or rebuild your relationships during recovery:
- Forgive Yourself –If you want your family to recognize and accept the “new” you, you have to let go of any lingering anger or resentment that you have at yourself.
- Move past the past – Without minimizing your past actions, realize that now is the time to move forward positively.
- Back up the words of your apology– In the past, how many times did you say “I’m sorry”, but changed nothing? DO something – let your new behaviors and habits show your sincerity.
- Respect their feelings –Granting forgiveness is done on THEIR schedule, not yours.
- Learn to listen –When you take the time to actively listen to what your family members are saying – without trying to explain, rationalize, or justify – your family members will educate you about how they feel and what it takes to heal the relationship.
- Be tolerant –In your quest to better yourself, remember that not everyone is on such a path. Learn to accept others as they are.
- Accept what cannot be repaired – Most of your family and friends will eventually embrace your changes – after all, they’ve been rooting for you for years. They want to see you succeed. But for some, there’s just too much hurt and anger for them to attempt another reconciliation.
Accept it, however painful. Trying to “force” yourself back into a relationship with someone will only cause more damage.
It may take time, but eventually, you will repair old relationships and build new ones because you DESERVE to be loved. Concentrate on your own wellness and have faith in the process.
If you have further questions about rebuilding your life and relationships during while you start your sobriety, contact Lasting Recovery Outpatient Rehab San Diego, today.