“People who love the addicted person, whether the addiction is pills, alcohol, or heroin, can learn to think and behave differently – to take constructive action that produces results. This includes learning to behave in a way that is most likely to lead to recovery in the addicted person.”
~ Jim Maclaine and Helen Townsend, When Someone You Love Is Addicted to Alcohol or Drugs
This is Part 2 of a four-part series.
There are two kinds of people who contact a San Diego addiction recovery program – the substance abusers themselves and the long-suffering family members. In each case, the disease of addiction made the lives of all concerned unmanageable.
In the first installment we talked about how a substance abuse disorder can cause dysfunction within a family, and how a professionally-held intervention can be the first step towards regaining balance and sanity.
Now we will discuss why an intervention may need to be proactive.
Why Intervene – Why Not Wait for the Substance Abuser to Ask for Help?
There is a long-held school of thought that a person with a drug or alcohol problem needs to voluntarily ask for help – that they must hit “rock bottom” in order to have the personal motivation to change.
Although that may work for some, there are problems with that line of thinking –
- Everyone has a different “rock bottom”.
- It can take years, or even decades for a person to reach their bottom. In the meantime, everyone suffers.
- While waiting for a person to reach their particular bottom, everyone concerned can suffer unimaginable losses – financial setbacks, emotional trauma, physical abuse, divorce, or even death.
But the biggest problem with waiting around for a suffering substance abuser to come forward after they have endured some crushing blow that leaves them with no other option besides asking for help, is the fact that treatment begins from a place of negativity. And often the addicted family who has been living with active denial, ‘don’t talk… , don’t trust.. and don’t feel’. Denial in a family takes years to begin telling the “truth” and every member needs to have their ‘voice’ for their own strength and development.
There is a better way.
In Part 3, we will discuss how positivity can influence the active substance abuser before, during, and after they begin treatment at a San Diego addiction recovery facility.
A person who has a substance abuse disorder needs compassion and comprehensive specialized care that addresses their disease on multiple levels. Lasting Recovery, the leading outpatient rehab San Diego has to offer, offers just such a program. If you are tired of the pain, shame, negativity associated with substance abuse, contact one of our intake specialists today.